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When Searching For A Compatible Match Are You Being Authentic?

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In your dating seeking journey to find your compatible match, do you find that you are an authentic dater or are you a disingenuous dater?  If you want to find your compatible match, then yes, you do need to be on your best behavior, but that does not mean you need to be someone that you are not.  Every time you lie and continue to lie, you need to keep telling lies so that you are not discovered in your lie.  It’s all a tangled web that we sometimes weave.  However, if you are looking to find your compatible match, there is absolutely no reason that you need to be disingenuous; you want to find your compatible match and live happily ever after, don’t you?  If you find your compatible match and then this person figures out that you aren’t who you presented yourself to be, then you’ll most likely lose this person.  When you find a compatible match, that is not always an easy find and you should do everything in your power not to lose this person.

So what makes you an authentic dater?  If you are an authentic dater, you are honest about yourself, first and foremost, to yourself.  You don’t play games and think you are something that you are not.  You do not need to fool yourself because you are completely (at least mostly) happy in your own skin and you are ready to find your compatible match.  Of course, no one is perfect and we all have those little idiosyncrasies that sometimes we dislike and also get on other peoples’ nerves, but when you are mostly happy with yourself, then you will be successful in your dating seeking journey to find a compatible match.  You will exude a sense of self-confidence that is not contrived, because you really are happy in your own skin and that is a very appealing and will aid in your search to find your compatible match.  When you laugh, it will be because you mean it and you are not just trying to fit in with the crowd.  You will have your own specific sense of style and you don’t need to change with every shifting wind of new fashion.  You will have a casual and comfortable style that is all your own.  This is such a comfortable feeling that you will be portraying to your potential matches and the beauty of it all is that you really are being genuine and this will help you find your compatible match.

Are you a disingenuous dater?  If you are not willing to be true to yourself, then you are most definitely a disingenuous dater and you will have a difficult time when you are trying to find your compatible match.  You will be putting on a show for all of your dating prospects and you will not feel comfortable in your own skin.  Your sense of self-confidence is not so great; or on the other spectrum, your pride always gets the better of you and you portray yourself as better than others.  You’ll have trouble finding your compatible match because most people will be able to see right through your disingenuous dating behavior.

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